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Wednesday, November 20, 2013

How to Treat Dry Itchy scalp and Dandruff

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At one point or another, I’m sure some of us have been plagued with scalp issues. Personally, this has been an issue for me since I was a child, even prior to getting a relaxer. When I was younger I had scabs and sores on my scalp; I remember my grandmother washing my hair with oranges and applying a homemade concoction. Within days I was cured. After relaxing my hair, I suffered from dry, itchy scalp, and flakes which I attributed to dandruff. Lots of people would say the flakes were due to the hair growing. I don’t know how true that is because my hair never seemed to grow. I was never able to get pass neck length. So I had flakes, but no length, it didn’t make any sense.

 So I did some research and came up with this quick, easy and simple mixture to help prevent and treat some of those pesky scalp issues. I am not a physician, this is what has been working for me. If you have concerns about allergies or adverse events please consult your physician. You can also do a patch test.


1 oz Jojoba oil

1 oz Olive oil

10 drops of tea tree oil

What to do:

Mix ingredients together in an applicator bottle and massage into scalp 2-3 times a week. You can leave it on your scalp or you can rinse it out. I usually leave it on.

Benefits of each oil:

Jojoba Oil: This oil is similar to the sebum that we excrete to lubricate our skin and hair. It is antibacterial, anti-inflammatory, and non-toxic. It is great as a scalp cleanser to clean clogged pores and prevent hair loss. It will absorb into the skin and does not evaporate.

Olive Oil:    Olive Oil is a natural moisturizer so it is great for moisturizing the scalp and will help naturally reduce the appearance of dandruff.  It is loaded with antioxidants so it promotes scalp health. Massaging it into your scalp will also help to increase blood flow and promote growth.

Tea Tree Oil:  This is my absolute favorite essential oil, In addition to using it in my hair I use it to clean cuts and scrapes. The oil is Anti viral, Anti septic, it kills lice and helps to reduce dandruff. It also works as a cleanser. This oils should be mixed with other carrier oils, applying directly to scalp or skin may cause burns.
Hope this helps.

Tuesday, October 29, 2013

My Three Year Natural Hair Journey, Hair update

I've been natural for a  little over three years. I did not go natural on purpose, all my hair fell out in 2010 due to improper care (kitchen perms), and stress. While researching ways to grow my hair back quickly I discovered Youtube. I saw so many women with long natural hair and I was intrigued. I had no idea my natural hair could grow. When I had a perm my hair never grew past neck length. Now my hair is the longest and healthiest its ever been. I’ve had a lot of setbacks over the last three years, all of which have helped me to understand my hair.

 In March 2012, I caught myself being fancy and went to the salon for a trim and a style. She styled my hair for the Gods but the trim was an epic disaster. I was about three months shy of my two year natural hair anniversary and the stylist “trimmed” my hair while it was wet, and shrunken. When I took the style out two weeks later, I realized that she had went all Edward scissor hand in my hair. I spent the following year leading up to May 2013 growing it back out and trimming frequently to even it out as much as possible. She really hacked my hair to pieces. Since May of this year I’ve been focusing on maintaining my healthy hair and retaining length. The journey continues. Thanks for watching

Thursday, October 17, 2013

Natural Hair Style Flat Twisted Headband

I made a video yall!! lol
Just trying to spice up the blog, plus you guys get to see more of my hair.
Thanks For Watching.

Sunday, September 22, 2013

How to Resuscitate Your Hair after Prolonged Abuse

Protein Treatment for Natural Hair:

My hair is normally in a protective style but this past week I was a little bored with my hair and decided to try a few styles. In a period of two weeks, I did a blow out, a twist out, a bantu knot out, a fro hawk, and finally an afro. (Many of those styles failed miserably by the way).  My hair suffered from major abuse so I applied a mild protein treatment to resuscitate it then tucked it away in a protective style. Hair is made up of protein so adding a protein treatment to your regimen will help to strengthen your strands, prevent breakage due to rough handling and over manipulation.

When to Do a Protein Treatment:

  1.  If you frequently moisturize your hair and notice that your hair is breaking a lot more than usual it may be time to do a protein treatment. Hair can suffer from over moisturizing.
  2. After too much manipulation as in the scenario described above.
  3. After removing a long term protective style such as braids, weaves, or mini twists.
How often To Do a Protein Treatment:

Protein treatments are great and everything but it is possible to have too much of a good thing. Too much protein leads to dry, brittle hair that snaps and breaks easily. If you notice that your hair stretches but does not snap back easily and breaks more than usual you may be suffering from protein overload. I typically do a protein treatment as needed which is usually every 2-3 months. I have low porosity hair (4c hair) so I have to be very careful with the protein.


2TBS EGGWHITES - Some people use the entire egg, but the whites are all protein
4TBS  of your favorite conditioner
1tbs Coconut oil - Contains protein, but also penetrates the hair shaft and moisturizes
1tbs Olive Oil - to moisturize
1tbs Honey - Also for moisture

Mix it all together, I usually apply it to my hair before I wash because I like to make sure I get all the protein out of my hair.

Friday, September 6, 2013

Henna on Natural Hair (My Experience)

My hair type: 4c

Hair Color: Black

Henna Used: Rajasthani Twilight

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How to Mix
  1. 100G of Mehandi Henna for short to back length hair (200g for back length to waist length and beyond)
  2. 1 cup of black tea
  3. Half a lemon (acidity is for color release)
Mix in a large bowl until it looks like this:
Cover with plastic bag or saran wrap and let the henna sit overnight make sure the henna mix is fully covered if it is exposed to the air it will dry up. Letting the henna sit overnight allows for the color to release, the longer the henna sits the more effective it is.

 Applying the Henna
In the morning after the henna has sat for a few hours, I add 1tbs Honey, 2tbs Olive Oil. This helps to keep my hair moisturized since the Henna can be very drying. I put gloves on because henna stains, and I make sure that the floors and counters are covered before I start the process. I apply henna to my freshly washed dry hair starting from root to tip. I use the entire mixture and make sure that my hair is fully coated. I cover my hair with a plastic cap and let it sit for 6-7 hours. I don't sleep with the Henna on my hair because it stains and I don't like sleeping with stuff in my hair, I'm too wild for that. After the 7hrs are up I rinse my hair out in the shower, it took me about an hour to get all Henna out of my hair. Henna can be very drying but once I applied my deep conditioner it was instantly soft. I followed up with my leave in, moisturizer then styled as usually.

The Benefits of Henna
Henna is most often considered as a natural dye. Body Art Quality Henna is usually your best bet at pure henna. Any Henna that promises a certain hair color may not be 100% natural. It is also great for strengthening, conditioning and adding shine. Some people have reported that Henna loosens the hair texture, I would say that this would apply to someone with type 3 hair. I personally have 4c hair and even a super duper strength perm could barely get this thing straight.

My Experience with Henna



(Took my twists out after washing, just used a leave in, you can definitely see the color change)

Moisturized chunky twist out
(today 09/07/2013)
My Thoughts on Henna
I like it, right off the bat I noticed that my hair shed less, it absorbed moisture a lot better. I want to try it a few more times to see if my hair is really strengthened, but I have noticed less breakage. The color change is subtle, but I like it. I really wasn't doing this to change the color of my hair but its a plus. I didn't notice any texture changes, and my hair felt super soft after conditioning. The only downside is that it takes so long to rinse out.

Check out this Video for my updated thoughts on Henna.

Sunday, August 4, 2013

How To Prevent Single Strand Knots on Natural Hair


I swear single strand knots are created by the devil himself to piss me off when I'm trying to rake through this bush. They are the one thing I absolutely hate about being natural. While there is absolutely no way to completely eliminate single strand knots (unless you permanently straighten you hair) there are a few tricks to help you prevent them.

So,what are single strand knots? They are knots that form on the end of your individual strand, they can also form farther up the hair shaft. Knots are formed when your hair shrinks up and wraps around itself. Sometimes knots can form during the detangling process, this happens when shed hairs are not released instead they wrap around the ends of your hair.

1.Detangle Before you Wash
I generally detangle my hair while its dry, I saturate my hair with coconut oil to soften it up. I find that getting rid of most of the shed hairs before I wash helps prevent them from wrapping around the ends of my hair when I detangle in the shower. I'm usually not able to detangle during the cleansing process because cleansers don't have enough slip for my liking .

2. Wash Your Hair in Sections
It never fails no matter how much dry detangling I do prior to washing I will get loads of knots and tangles if I wash my hair loose. I have 4c hair and 90 % shrinkage so once that water hits my hair its instant shrinkage and instant tangles which leads to single strand knots. My hair is super thick and about medium length so i wash my hair in about ten twists which works great for me. Washing my hair loose is not an option.

3. Finger Detangle
For me at least finger detangle helps me release more shed hairs than combing, its a lot easier and a lot less painful. Using my fingers while I dry detangle helps me to feel the tangles and undo them verses combing or brushing which might cause the hair to break off where its tangled. While in the shower, after deep conditioning I hold my hair under the water stream which loosens up the tangles and make it easier for me to rake my fingers through my hair.

4. Moisturize your Hair
I recommend deep conditioning after every wash even if you use a cleansing conditioner. This helps to replenish some of the moisture you lose during the cleansing process. Follow up with your favorite leave in, moisturizer, oil etc. Also use ph balanced products, this helps to close the cuticles and retain moisture it also prevents breakage. I tend to notice that my hair forms more knots when it is dry, the strands don't wrap around themselves when my hair is properly lubricated, because there is less friction.

5. Wear your hair stretched. 
Tangles form when your hair gets the opportunity to shrink and wrap around itself. So for me styles like wash and gos are a big no no. I have 4c hair so a wash and go on my hair is an instant shrunken fro and trillions of knots. (no exaggeration lol) I tend to wear a lot of protective styles. My favorite are flat twists, and two strand twists. When twisting my hair I don't twist all the way to the ends, I stop at least a quarter of the way from the ends and I wrap it around my finger to form a coil. Its easier to remove the twists when you coil the ends. if you do twist all the way down you risk the chance of your ends becoming tangled and possibly breaking off during the removal process. Twist-outs, braid-outs, and blow-drying your hair also works great at stretching as well.

I haven't completely rid myself of single strand knots but by taking all the steps above I've reduced my likelihood of getting them by about 95%.
Hope this helps:

Monday, June 10, 2013

Quick and Easy Hot Oil Treatment for Natural Hair / PRE -POO

I always pre - poo before I cleanse my hair. Sometimes the most natural sulfate free shampoos can strip the hair of its natural oils. This leaves your hair feeling dry, and dry hair is prone to breakage.


2tbs Coconut oil
2tbs Olive Oil

Heat the oils in a microwave safe container for about 15seconds or place the oils in a bottle or container of your choice and let it sit in warm water for about 15 - 20 minutes. Before cleansing, apply the oil mixture to your dry or wet hair and cover with a plastic cap for a few hours or overnight. I like to add it to my hair while its dry and leave it on overnight.  If you choose to speed up the process you can sit under a hooded dryer for about 15 minutes on low.

Benefits of Coconut Oil
Coconut oil penetrates the hair shaft to strengthen and prevent breakage by preventing protein loss. This oil is also great for sealing in moisture, and providing shine. It is also an a antibacterial so it helps to soothe and prevent itchy scalp and dandruff.

Benefits of Olive Oil
Olive olive is also known for penetrating the hair shaft. It adds luster, shine, and prevents breakage. It is also one of my favorite moisturizers. Massaging olive oil into the scalp is a great way to prevent dry scalp because of its great natural moisturizing capabilities.

I have 4c natural hair and this helps me retain moisture during the cleansing process.

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Thursday, May 9, 2013

My Top Five Natural Hair Failures


My Top Five Natural Hair Failures

My natural hair journey has been exciting and trying at times. There have been a lot of pleasant discoveries along the way. But through the journey came a lot of disasters. Here are a few.

5. Dry Brittle Hair
What I did:
When I first went natural in 2010 I read somewhere that natural hair loves water, and it was the best moisturizing agent. I took that to mean I had to wash my hair every day or every other day. Being that I had a twa I thought no big deal I can wash my hair every day my white friends did it all the time. So there I was washing my hair once a day sometimes every other day but not just washing, I was SHAMPOOING (with sulfate). So what were the results?  My hair was extremely dry, brittle and hard.
What I learned.
Water is the best moisturizer for natural hair; I don’t have to wash my hair every day to reap the benefits of this awesome moisturizer. Now I spritz my hair with a water based moisturizer or wet my hair with water then follow up with a cream and oil.

4. Heat Damage
                                          What I did:

At one point in my journey I deemed my hair too thick and unmanageable and decided to heat train my hair. This was an epic mistake. I didn’t use a flat iron, I just decided to blow dry my hair excessively. What I ended up with was more brittle, dry hair.
What I learned:
Heat trained hair is heat damaged hair. I decided to give up heat altogether and focus on conditioning and moisturizing my hair. Regular deep conditioning treatments have really helped to soften my hair along with using ph balanced products.

3. Excessive greasing
What I did:
I read everywhere that natural oils are great for moisturizing and aiding in growth. While this is very true I went over board greasing my hair. I would completely saturate my hair with oils to the point that it was running down my face and neck. I went to the grocery store and felt something on my neck I reached up rubbed my neck and my hand was completely coated.
What I learned:
While oils are great moisturizers for natural hair it’s not necessary to drench your hair. I section my hair in four and apply a dimed size amount to each section. My hair is pretty thick and about medium length so that amount generally works for me.

2. Product Junky Fail
What I did:
When I first went natural I had a lot of trouble keeping my hair moisturized and finding products to moisturize my hair. If I were to type my hair I would say that I have 4c hair. I tried all types of products, some would work for a while then after about a week my hair would be dry again. Many products worked while my hair was wet but once it dried it was dry again.
What I learned:
I learned that natural products that contain butters like shea and mango and natural oils worked great in my hair. The problem is these products are hard to find so I ended up making my own products. They include; a cleanser, conditioner, moisturizer, oil, and daily moisturizing spray.

1. Salon Nightmare
What I did:
This is probably my biggest and worst natural hair fail. About four months before my two year natural hair anniversary I decided to go to the salon to get a dope style and a trim. I had been trimming my hair myself since I went natural and decided a professional would do a better job at making it even. This was in March 2012, and I was a little bit below collar bone length. I googled natural hair salons in my area and decided to go to Loose Ends in Orlando because it looked like the most professional and they advertised themselves as a natural hair salon. Fast forward through the visit and my hair was four inches shorter and uneven everywhere. I had pieces that were as short as an inch ( that’s right I said an inch) from collar bone length to an inch.
What I learned:
I learned not to pick a natural hair salon on a whim. I haven’t been back to the salon since but if I were to go back I would ask other naturals what salons they recommend. Ask the stylist questions before I entrust them with my hair. Ask to see pictures of the types of hair that they’ve worked on and ask about their technique. Since then I’ve been growing out my hair and trimming and cutting occasionally to make things as even as possible.

What are your natural hair failures?

Wednesday, April 3, 2013

Better Than Good Hair by CurlyNikki: My Review and give away

Book: Better Than Good Hair
Author: Nikki "curlynikki" Walton

I finally got through reading better than good hair by curlynikki, and I can definately say that it was well thought out and well written. The book reads like a how to guide on how to go and stay natural. It was very easy to read and was broken down into sections; The big chop,The TWA, The terrible twos, The golden years, Natural from the start, and All grown up now.

In the section titled "The Big Chop", there is extensive information provided to guide you on your journey through the big chop. You'll learn what to expect, how to accessorize, how to moisturize and so on. In the sections entitled The Terrible Twos and The Golden Years you get a general idea of what to expect during years 2 and up along with commentary from women who have been natural for a while. Natural from the start gives general information on embracing, styling, and managing your childs natural hair. While All Grown Up gives you a preview of what to expect at five years natural.

There are tons of tips on how to moisturize your natural hair as well as helpful recipes. Recipes include a very detailed henna mix, oil mix and moisturizer. There is also a product index that lists a wide range of products, some that are curly girl friendly and others that are not.

In my opinion, this book is for the newly natural, transitioners, or anyone thinking about going natural. I've been natural for almost three years now and I've pretty much gone through the whole trial and error process. I watched all the youtube videos, read books and articles, experimented with different products so a lot of the information in the book was redundant. But it was nice having that information in one place. I wish this book was around when I first went natural. A lot of people have had questions about what steps to take to go natural well now you have all the answers in this one book. I highly recommend it.

GIVEAWAY: To get my copy of this book please head on over to my facebook page and answer this question "What is your definition of good hair?" Yes this book is used, only one winner will be chosen and this giveaway is open until the end if the month.

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